Cosmos-Liturgy-Sex

The problem with most androgynous pushing activists and man-hating wives is that they understandably hate and fear what has hurt them in the past. Many of them were betrayed by an abusive “father” and/or husband who destroyed the innocence they were supposed to protect, and exploited their role as a means of self- validation and fulfillment. As if like a cancer that is carried on from generation to generation, some of it’s victims feel justified in destroying the lives of others who had become fallen prey under the premise of marriage; while others heroically dedicate their lives to never allowing it to take another victim.

Food for thought with Zenit’s article on How Dads Can Help Raise Strong Daughters:

Research shows that a father’s influence builds up self-esteem, helps his daughter to avoid sex, drugs, alcohol, and stay in college. What it is that a father offers is that he carries an authority in his daughter’s eyes. This authority is not ascribed to the mother, not that she is not important, but a father’s influence is different.

When a girl is little, her dad is her primary male love relationship. When he gives her something as a man, she learns lessons about men, setting a template in those early years on her heart about what to expect, to think, to feel, and know about men from there on out, affecting even her relationship to God, because Christ is a man.

Some of us have lived charmed lives, having no excuses for so often falling short in so many of the responsibilities in our called vocations. As this is one, among many reasons, to why we are in no position to judge anyone for any reason - but we are bound to take action against such a former victims to prevent acts which may systemically jeopardize the well being of their family members.  Although culpability may vary - the damage does not. For some, a membership into the victim hood survivor club is the best ticket in town which comes with a life time worth of benefits to include.

•  Freedom from responsibility.
• Perpetual moral correctness.
• Freedom from accountability.
• Sympathy without limits
• Justified in feeling moral indignation for being wronged.

It’s too bad we live in an imperfect world, with imperfect mental health professionals who do more to screw up imperfect patients than help them. It’s also too bad when some of us can’t seem to move beyond the self destructive nature of self pity and anger. We ALL live in a fallen world that quite often seems unfair - more for some than others - and it’s up to all us to make the best out of it by helping each other. It’s a pity when we get stuck in our own petty little world.