There has been a lot of discussion lately about same sex attraction and the priesthood with the coming of the Apostolic Visitation. Many Catholics who usually are obedient to the Church seem to be balking at Her policy of not ordaining men who suffer from same sex attraction but are committed to living chaste lives. I discussed this earlier this week and have posted on it in such articles as whether there will be sex in heaven (this one is worth looking at if for nothing else the link to Peter Kreeft’s article on the sexual order of creation—a must read!), and in an article on women and the priesthood. I will not repeat these here but I would like to emphasize the importance of sex and healthy sexual identity for human personhood.
First, I would like to make some distinctions in terminology because this will clarify the disorder of homosexuality. The term “gay†was coined in the late 60’s – early 70’s to identify an agenda to make the homosexual lifestyle not just accepted but lauded. Thus, it is not just the pc term equivalent to homosexual but brings with it an agenda. Homosexual is a term used for those with same sex attractions. However, the danger of the term is that it seems to imply that same sex attraction goes to the core of personal identity (for those philosophers-it is assumed to be ontological). The paradox is that most who advocate the gay agenda will deny this same significance of sex for personal identity to masculinity and femininity. However, same sex attraction is a psychological disorder, not a state of being. Significant enough, Scripture never talks of “homosexuals†but of those who do homosexual acts. Among homosexuals, one can identify those who push the agenda, those who are simply content to engage in homosexual acts, and those who experience same sex attractions but are committed to living chaste lives. Generally, among faithful Catholics there is no argument about the first two groups. However, unfortunately, even the third group must not be ordained until they have been “cured†of their pathology (which, by the way, the Catholic apostolate Courage reports happens at a very high rate for those who pursue treatment). However, it is important to recognize that same sex attraction is of a completely different order from heterosexual, concupiscent lust. The latter is natural, the former is disordered. The struggle with the disorder as I have said, is a struggle to find oneself, not just a struggle to overcome lustful thoughts. Even without the theological restrictions, the pragmatic/prudent concerns weigh against this. But there are some other insights about sex and human personhood which can help illuminate the importance for sex for personal identity.
Who else: John Paul the Great provides insightful understanding of sex and personhood. In his theology of the body catecheses he points out that sex is more than just an attribute of the person, it in part, constitutes personhood.
As Genesis 2:23 already shows, femininity finds itself, in a sense, in the presence of masculinity, while masculinity is confirmed through femininity. Precisely the function of sex, which is in a sense, “a constituent part of the person†(not just “an attribute of the personâ€), proves how deeply man, with all his spiritual solitude, with the never to be repeated uniqueness of his person, is constituted by the body as “he†or “she.†The presence of the feminine element, alongside the male element and together with it, signifies an enrichment for man in the whole perspective of his history, including the history of salvation (John Paul II, Theology of the Body, 49).
It goes to the very core of the person. We are constituted as a concrete, unique, and unrepeatable person only as a he or she. Later he says that it determines one’s personal identity.
Sex decides not only the somatic individuality of man, but defines at the same time his personal identity and concreteness. Precisely in this personal identity and concreteness, as an unrepeatable female-male “self,†man is “known†when the words of Genesis 2:24 come true: “A man . . . cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.†The knowledge which Genesis 4:1-2 and all the following biblical texts speak of, arrives at the deepest roots of this identity and concreteness, which man and woman owe to their sex. This concreteness means both the uniqueness and the unrepeatability of the person (John Paul II, Theology of the Body, 79).
Our sex even has implications for how we should act:
The fundamental fact of human existence at every stage of its history is that God “created them male and female.†He always creates them in this way and they are always such. Understanding of the fundamental meanings contained in the mystery of creation, such as the nuptial meaning of the body (and of the fundamental conditions of this meaning), is important. It is indispensable in order to know who man is and who he should be, and therefore how he should mold his own activity (John Paul II, Theology of the Body, 74).
If we are not sure of our sexual identity, we cannot know who we really are or how we should properly act. This loss of self is a pathology, the turmoil of which cannot be underestimated. That at root the reason that we see suicide rates 300 percent greater for those suffering from same sex attraction than for heterosexuals (lest any one say this is due to so-called homophobia, this holds even in “gay friendly†countries like the Netherlands and in very accommodating U.S. cities like San Francisco). Until one suffering from same sex attraction finds himself, he cannot be a spiritual father over others. This is both pragmatic and theological. Those already priests, are validly and licitly priests but they have a tough situation to deal with. I would encourage them to join their local Courage group. God does not call those who cannot be priests. He will not work against His Church. I hope that we all can do more to understand the why rather than to assume, for example, that the Church must be wrong in this because barring these men from the priesthood does not appear to be the charitable approach.